It’s easy to focus on what others are doing, and react instead of respond. A couple of years ago I was in a situation where I began to notice that what was actually happening in a relationship was not what I had signed up for. I was upset and discussed it with a trusted friend. After listening intently, she said, “Lisa, what are YOU going to do?” That question stopped me in my tracks and shifted me out of reactivity into intentional introspection and accountability. Regardless of how you expected things to be, or want them to be, assess the current realities of the situation. Tap into who you are and what you need. Given what you are feeling and observing, is this a context where you are likely to thrive now or in the future? Based on your gut and on what you are observing as fact, what are YOU going to do?